How to be a mindful monk at work even if your boss and co-workers are Type-A cray-crays
Whether you work for a Type-A Boss or with teammates who are demanding and nearly impossible to get along with, it helps to develop an inner strength and source of calm that you can access at will.
With more open-office layouts and team-oriented workplaces being the norm rather than the exception, your inner reserves of peace and tranquility can be rapidly depleted leaving you unable to focus and get things done.
Headphones aren’t always the answer
While isolating yourself from surrounding chatter with headphones and earbuds is one option, it’s not a substitute for a well of calm within. In order to survive and excel in these difficult environments, you need a well of inner calm that can be accessed on-demand.
That endless well of inner calm can only come from regularly sitting quietly and simply being.
A mass of nervous energy
If you’d met me ten years ago, you would’ve walked away from the encounter thinking that I was a drug addict twitching for my next fix. I used to be so nervous and filled with anxiety. I suffered at one time from post-traumatic stress disorder after a 15-year marriage where domestic violence was my daily reality.
As a child bullied by peers, and even my own mother at times, I later gravitated toward those that would continue this ill-treatment because it was all I knew. As a result, I was hypervigilant and never at peace.
It wasn’t until I encountered the core teachings of the Buddha and a 10-year period of recovery following my divorce, that I was finally able to confront the issues that plagued my life. Facing the reality of each issue, questioning everything I’d ever believed, and moving toward a mindful manner of living was my escape plan.
I read three very influential books that helped me begin the practice of cultivating awareness, living mindfully, and sitting in silence. At last, I’d found a well of inner calm that never existed prior to these discoveries and practices.
Cultivating your well of inner calm
The good news is that it doesn’t take a lot of time to develop this inner calm, even just sitting quietly five minutes each day can get you started on the path observing what I call moments of meaning.
‘Moments of Meaning’ is how I like to refer to the various forms of mindfulness practice because that is essentially what they are. From 5-minute self-check-ins or a focused time of planning to a more formal 10-20 minute meditation session… mindfulness practice can transform you from the inside.
The benefits to be gained by such simple yet profound practices are many; from greater concentration and insight into how your mind works to a decrease in stress hormones dumped into your bloodstream every time your Type-A boss issues a new edict.
Like a flourishing garden, an endless well of inner calm is the result of regular tending and cultivation.
The articles and resources below will help you understand more about establishing a meditation and mindfulness practice to establish and grow your own well of inner calm.
No, You’re Not Crazy; 3 Reasons Why Working for a Type-A Boss Feels Like You’re Losing You’re Mind
Working for a Type-A boss can be like working for a meth addict.
If you’ve ever crossed paths with a meth user in full-on tweaker mode, then you may have seen some similarities with your Type-A boss. Both are driven toward a goal like a locomotive charging off a cliff.
Your Workday Doesn’t Have To Feel Like You’re Living a Scene from ‘The Shining’
Working with Type-A folks can certainly evoke some really strong reactions. Anger, feeling hurt, annoyance and other forms of stress are examples of often how we choose to respond to various stimuli at work and maybe even at home, on the freeway, or around our kids.
It’s almost as if we possess a negative-reflex-thinking mode that becomes our go-to response, triggered over and over again.
8 Ways Regular Mindfulness Practice Can and Will Change Your Brain
Mindfulness practice is a transformative practice. If you engage in eating ice cream five minutes every day, do you know what would happen? Your waistline would be transformed… and probably not in the way you’d want. 🙄
You wouldn’t see it changing each day, but over the course of a few weeks, you’d notice some changes.
That’s how it is with mindfulness practice.
After five minutes on the first day you might not notice any transformation occurring, but over a few weeks, you’ll notice some significant changes.
*Some years ago, Adam Kayce used to write a blog called Monk At Work and I loved it. Always a class act, Adam graciously granted me permission to use his original monk graphic that’s at the top of the page. Adam builds WordPress websites at BrightCoconut.com